Sexual Assault First Aid™
#WithYouToo puts Sexual Assault First Aid™ in your pocket: what to say when someone tells you, what to do in the first 72 hours, and a 90-day plan for after.
Free. No account. Opens in your browser, nothing to install.
Title IX investigates the allegation. The crisis center responds to the crisis. But most people who tell anyone tell a friend. That friend is the first responder, not the backup plan.
#WithYouToo is a safety protocol, like a fire extinguisher. You learn where it is before you need it.
Sexual harm is an injury that needs first aid care before it's a crime demanding interrogation.
“What's happening right now?” Pick the closest answer. A next step is a tap or two away, with nothing to read first.
Ten quick questions, for you or a friend. Sexual harm doesn't often look like what we see on TV, so every answer explains something.
Nothing is saved. Skip any screen, go back, or exit at any time.
When someone has just told you: things to say and do, a few at a time. It starts with “Are you safe where you are right now?” because safety comes before the story.
Then it checks in: “Okay, what's next” or “I need help with this.”
Say what's going on, or tap a suggested reply. The guide answers with one next step and words you can copy or send exactly as they are.
The guide is an AI. It draws only on 3Joannes' reviewed material, and it asks your permission before your first message.
A quiet way to say you need someone. You don't have to explain what happened to ask. Pick the words, then copy or send them.
Not ready to send anything? Steady yourself first, in about 60 seconds.
Most of us listen for one conversation. Some keep checking in for a week or two. Your friend is still in it a month later.
The first three months are the natural recovery period, and it's when your support matters most. That's why the app gives you a 90-Day Support Plan: how to help, one day at a time.
The clock starts when someone tells you, not when the harm happened.
Seven questions, about a minute, no wrong answers. The first 72 hours are the same for everyone. After that, the guidance follows your Support Superpower, so you can help without burning out.
Dependable · Practical · Unshakeable
You're the steady friend everyone relies on when things fall apart. While others are posting about the drama, you're already at their door with snacks and a plan.
Your superpower: creating safety through practical support and unwavering reliability.
Fierce · Protective · Unapologetic
You're a fierce protector, ready to fight for what's right. When you see unfairness, you're the first to speak up and take action. You'll walk into the hard stuff with your people.
Your superpower: fearless advocacy. Navigating systems, making calls, standing up to anyone who disrespects your people.
Validating · Genuine · Empathetic
You're the empathetic friend who creates emotional safety. Your texts always include “how are you REALLY?” and you mean it. You're the friend people trust with their unfiltered truth.
Your superpower: unconditional empathy. Sitting with difficult feelings without trying to fix or minimize them.
Analytical · Resourceful · Perceptive
You're the organized friend who brings clarity to chaos. You help your friend do the research, create a game plan, sort out tasks, and find the right resources.
Your superpower: strategic problem-solving. Breaking overwhelming situations into manageable pieces.
Uplifting · Spontaneous · Vibrant
You know how to lift your friend's spirits with perfectly timed humor, encouragement, and fun distractions. You don't dismiss the hard stuff, but you remind friends it won't always feel this way.
Your superpower: boosting morale and inspiring hope. Reminding people that joy is still possible.
This is your natural first move, not your limit. Find yours
You may be opening this on a hard night, on a phone someone else can pick up. It's built for that.
Read the privacy policy“3Joannes is empowering individuals with an essential life skill that's often overlooked but absolutely crucial for modern support and empathy.”
“Knowing my support style means I can show up confidently for the people I love instead of being afraid to show up at all.”
“This tool will be revolutionary in normalizing support and care before an incident has even taken place.”
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Most people who tell anyone tell a friend. Be the one who knows what to do.
